Have you ever liked a person so much that it drove you crazy? In a platonic relationship between two people, how does this craze act psychologically? Usually, it is one person in total admiration with the other. Once, you start loving someone, it feels good to give. It arouses a craving to keep giving as long as it hurts yourself.
How do you handle such a situation? Being crazy about someone is not always infatuation. It is an addiction. And addiction is just a set of things that you keep doing regularly creating a habit. For de-addiction, the algorithm is simple. You just need to stop doing things the way you did earlier. What will happen when you are rehabilitated? How will things turn out to be? What about the things that you did for that someone in the name of love? Will that go into oblivion? Certainly not! You might be under the impression that you give and that it does not have an impact anyway.
But here's the catch! Let me tell you a secret. Most subjects that do not reciprocate you are those who enjoy the attention but just draw an armour around them for lack of some kind of security. So once you stop doing the things you do, the loss is not on your side because you are the giver. It is however on the receiver's side, as they stop getting the vibrations of love that kept them warm. Although not conspicuous, not everyone's armour is hard enough and there is a soft spot inside the thorny circle outside.
In such a situation, it is important for you to deal with yourself and your self-esteem. You like a person because there is some similarity or an attribute they possess in them that has impressed you. This just means that you must strike a synergy than putting them in a higher pedestal. Why? Because, when you put someone at a higher level, they have no choice but to look at you on the down side. Instead, wait for the reciprocation. And in case it doesn't happen, no problem, still, it is all respect you will be receiving because you already made an impact once. And if only a pipeline is empty will it be free for flow. If you keep stuffing it with things, you are the reason for its blockage. Do not suffocate people with your love. If you truly love a person, accept them the way they are. They will love you back for your sensibility. Thus the secret to win someone's heart is:
You put that person on a higher pedestal and keep your expectations nil just wanting to give for the joy of giving. And so it happens that you keep giving and giving until the 'no-expectation' gap widens and creates a bermuda triangle where things go in but never returned. You stare back, trying to make sense. But it doesn't at all. You feel tangled between what you have for a person and how it backfires you. You know you deserve love but some how you also feel justified that the person you love is unable to reciprocate.
How do you handle such a situation? Being crazy about someone is not always infatuation. It is an addiction. And addiction is just a set of things that you keep doing regularly creating a habit. For de-addiction, the algorithm is simple. You just need to stop doing things the way you did earlier. What will happen when you are rehabilitated? How will things turn out to be? What about the things that you did for that someone in the name of love? Will that go into oblivion? Certainly not! You might be under the impression that you give and that it does not have an impact anyway.
But here's the catch! Let me tell you a secret. Most subjects that do not reciprocate you are those who enjoy the attention but just draw an armour around them for lack of some kind of security. So once you stop doing the things you do, the loss is not on your side because you are the giver. It is however on the receiver's side, as they stop getting the vibrations of love that kept them warm. Although not conspicuous, not everyone's armour is hard enough and there is a soft spot inside the thorny circle outside.
In such a situation, it is important for you to deal with yourself and your self-esteem. You like a person because there is some similarity or an attribute they possess in them that has impressed you. This just means that you must strike a synergy than putting them in a higher pedestal. Why? Because, when you put someone at a higher level, they have no choice but to look at you on the down side. Instead, wait for the reciprocation. And in case it doesn't happen, no problem, still, it is all respect you will be receiving because you already made an impact once. And if only a pipeline is empty will it be free for flow. If you keep stuffing it with things, you are the reason for its blockage. Do not suffocate people with your love. If you truly love a person, accept them the way they are. They will love you back for your sensibility. Thus the secret to win someone's heart is:
- Do not keep giving, wait for them to return your love. You don't get as much as you give. You get as much time as you wait to get it back after giving. Unconditional love still deserves respect and honour. This is the point you must stand up for yourself than succumb to slavery for your love towards another. If it does not come back, at least, you save the rest of your efforts! But don't you worry, the impact you create will certainly be indelible even if you had given too much. Either way, you will never be at loss.
- Give people their spaces and let them be away. They will get to you in a natural way.
